You start to think a worrisome thought. This thought creates a few more troublesome thoughts. And, before you are even aware of it, there is a tsunami of tormenting thoughts storming in your mind.
This brewing tsunami saps you of your mental and physical energy while making you think absurdly.
Your enemy is back and creating loads of thunder within. Yes, we are talking about your worry addiction that you nurture unknowingly.
You worry about the most mundane stuff and blow the tiniest issues out of proportion. You stress about petty things that most people would have never given a second thought to, but why?
We have all been there, worrying and creating chaos out of nothing. Most of us go through worry phases throughout our lives. However, it is important that we learn lessons from our experiences rather than multiplying our perturbing thoughts.
You are surely aware that you are doing more harm than good by worrying most of the time. You know you have to stop it, but, like most of us, you don’t know where to start. If this sounds familiar, follow us as we discuss how you can achieve a state of bliss and peacefulness.
Don’t Recycle the Past
Do you always worry about the things that you experienced in the past?
You may have had a bad experience in the past. However, this does not mean that you will face the same results again. When we think about a past episode, we are concerned that it will reoccur in the future.
Remember one thing, your past is dead. And there is no way you can bring it back to life and make amendments to it. The only things you can carry from your past experiences are lessons.
Nevertheless, this will only happen when you stop worrying about the past and start to think logically. You need to be willing to accept your mistakes and learn from them.
If you remain trapped in your past, you’ll lose your present life completely. And, when you don’t focus on your present, you create more chaos for yourself. So, you need to remember that you cannot change the past. After all, it’s impossible to drive a car forward if you’re staring into the rear view mirror – and the same goes for your life.
Don’t Trouble Your Present
You say you don’t worry about your past, because it’s out of your hands. Well that’s great. But do you worry about your present state?
If a person is dealing with problems in the present moment, he or she is actually facing them. There is nothing else one can do about it. So, what’s that which is making you perturbed in your current situation? Most probably it’s your future.
Just like the past, tormenting yourself about the future can actually prevent you from being in the moment. And this will make you miss the affairs that are happening in your life right now.
The best approach is to stay rooted in the present moment; the moment that you can control and can make real changes to now. Stop fretting and losing sleep over things that have already occurred, or may or may not occur in the future.
Your past has gone. Your future is yet to come. You have no control over them. You can only control your present state with your wisdom and alertness.
If you want to live in your present, ask yourself a few questions.
- Do I miss my present because of my future?
- Do I sour my present by recalling my departed past moments?
If you answer yes to either of these questions, make a pledge to yourself that you’ll get up every morning with positive thoughts. You will be determined to gain the maximum from the next twenty-four hours regardless of the conditions.
Don’t Get Anxious About Your Future
The future is a time and space that is yet to materialize. If you are not worrying about your lifeless past, but constantly worry about your future, then it’s time you do something about it.
The best way to stop agonizing about your future is to proactively prepare yourself for it in the present. Spend your time wisely and work on the solutions to the circumstances that may occur in the future.
If you spend your entire time worrying about the future and do nothing to find the solution for your potential problems, you will land yourself in even bigger trouble.
Getting Rid of Anxiety: Break Free from the Worry Cycle
In order to escape the cycle of worry, you should learn ways to create a new cycle of harmony for yourself. Fortunately, there are plenty of effective methods that you can utilise to focus on the things that make you happy.
Like any other habit, you can break free from the worry cycle. The following tips should help you begin a new phase in your life that will considerably cut your stress and help you to stop worrying so much:
1. Be Nice To Yourself
Yes, that’s right. Be compassionate towards yourself. Don’t beat yourself up with unnecessary thoughts. Be mindful of your feelings. We all have emotions that we deal with every day. However, the displeasure arises when we start to worry.
Let this feeling of displeasure be a warning signal for you. Learn to detect the first signs of worry before they find a chance to create a cycle and convert into genuine terror.
2. Identify The Stimulus
When you worry too much, it not only makes you feel sluggish, but also leads to a horrible start of the day. This is turn makes the whole day, perhaps even more days, awful.
You can lead a happy and stress-free life when you are out of the worried phase. So, how can you start to break this wicked habit?
Find out what you really want. As we already discussed, the painful feelings are warning signals that indicate you are missing out on something important. When you are clear about what you want from the situation, you can prepare to break the worry cycle.
Understand what initiated the first thought, which led you to feel miserable in the first place. Don’t just sit staring towards the ceiling running through all the “ifs,” “ands,” and“buts,” in your mind. Get up and do something worthwhile to pull yourself out of this misery. This will also help you to distract yourself from your worry patterns and, as a result, will minimize your anxiety and stress.
Chronic worriers may find it extremely hard to do this. However, once they are determined to face a greater life ahead, then they are ready to recognize the event that evoked their nasty thoughts; the thoughts that are making their and their loved one’s lives wretched every day.
3. Tête-à-tête With Someone
If there is someone understanding with whom you can relate, then talk to them. Surely you have a partner, companion, friend or family member that you could talk to, who understands you.
Generally, when we have something on our mind, we feel rejuvenated after we talk to someone about it.
Ensure that the person you choose to talk to is sensible and ready to offer positive insights. Stay away from negative people who will make your worrying more dreadful by talking about all of the terrible scenarios that you had not even thought of yourself yet.
4. Work On A Solution
If you can work out a solution to help the results of a situation be favorable to you, then do it. When you think about the solution, you feel really motivated about your situation. Get your emotions involved in it.
Think, visualize, and picture for a moment how great you’ll feel if you achieve the result you desire. Hold the thought for some time. Enjoy your positive future. After all, you have a series of negative thoughts running through your mind when you worry, so it’s important to focus on every bit of positivity you can think of, as often as you can.
That said, don’t get lost in the future. The moment you find yourself getting worried about the result, stop and refocus yourself on the solution and the steps you want to take in order to achieve it. Take small steps if necessary,and don’t rush.
5. Be A Decisive Decision Maker
Unsettled issues can escalate your worries to another level. However, you can stop them from exacerbating by making quick, decisive decisions. Don’t delay when making decisions.
Whether it’s the investment you want to make, or the choice you need to make regarding your relationship, just decide what you want to do. When you do so, you will find yourself relieved of the anxiety immediately.
Decisions that are not implemented haze your mind with burden, uneasiness and stress. So, you need to learn to make decisions quickly. If you are not sure where to start, collect all the information needed to make them.
6. Take Action At The Right Time
You have worked out a solution. You have made up your mind and decided what to do. Now, don’t stop there. It’s better to take action rather than thinking about the outcome.
Any actions you implement take you closer towards your goals and work to minimize your worry levels. Thinking too much about the hurdles that appear prior to attaining your objectives can greatly enhance your fear and pressure.
Yes, of course it is important to plan things out wisely. However, you should avoid over-analyzing the situation. This only gives birth to more fears, stresses and doubts that keep you from taking the right action at the right time.
So, arm yourself against worries and take action. We are sure you will be astounded by how content this makes you feel. What else you can do to stop worrying? Read on to learn some more easy tips to fight everyday stress and anxiety.
7. Breathe Your Worries Out
Many people find zoning out in front of the television as the best way to clear their minds of stress.
However, this actually hardly does anything to curtail the dire effects of stress. To effectively fight depression and feelings of worry, you need to activate the body’s natural defense system.
You can do so by practicing relaxation techniques, such as abdominal breathing. You just need a few minutes of your day, your breath, and of course a pair of lungs to feel the amazing effects of this wonderful technique. So how do you do it? Read on.
- Sit comfortably, with your back straight. Place one hand on your stomach and the other on your chest.
- Start breathing in through your nose. When you breathe, ensure that the hand on your chest barely moves when compared to the hand on your stomach.
- Now, slowly exhale through your mouth. Again, the hand on your stomach should move in as you breathe out, but the hand on your chest should remain relatively still.
- Repeat this process. Breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth.
When you take deep breaths from the abdomen you inhale more oxygen. This way, you feel less tense and anxious as your body is oxygenated appropriately.
Don’t wait until you lose track of your worrying thoughts. Controlled breathing not only keeps your mind peaceful, it also works to reduce you blood pressure and boost feelings of relaxation.
8. Pen Down Your Worrying Journal
Don’t worry about what others are doing. Stop taking responsibility for everyone else.
If you are worried about your children, parents or spouse making mistakes, remember you cannot fix the world. Leave them and let them learn from their mistakes.
There is no end to worry. But you should still find a way to put a full stop to your irrelevant thoughts. You could start writing a diary to store everything you are worried about. This is a great way to transfer your thoughts from your mind to paper.
Write down how you feel physically and mentally, and try to explain why you feel that way. The closer you get to the source of your thoughts, the more concentrated and calm you will feel. You can easily fight your negative thoughts when you are aware of them.
Create goals and plans to get rid of your negativity. Read your goals every day. When you know the solutions, you will more easily be able to calm down your stressed mind.
9. Postpone Your Worry Time
Now, we know it’s quite a daunting task saying goodbye to the worrying you do every day.
If you really want to worry about things, then appoint some worry time. You can fix 20 minutes out of the day to ponder over your unresolved and problematic issues.
However, once the 20 minutes are over, you need to promise yourself that you will stop thinking about your problems until later. This will ease you, knowing that you will still be giving these problems your time and attention, but just not right at that moment.
With this method, you’ll have the chance to use your time more efficiently. Maybe, when you decide to go back to your worry time, its intensity may have worn out or the issue may have resolved itself.
10. Meditate Your Worries Away
Constant worrying can zap you of your emotional and physical energy, leaving you exhausted and drained.
Start meditating for at least 20 to 30 minutes each day. You can either allocate meditation time in the morning or before you sleep. Meditation helps you to acquire a calm and peaceful mind.
Meditation is done by focusing on your breathing and letting go of worrying thoughts that are enveloping your mind. Practicing meditation daily makes you strong enough to take control of your thoughts and eradicate your stress easier and faster.
Don’t make worry a habit that you are addicted to. You should kick this addiction before it adversely affects the quality of your life.
We can tell you that only you have the power to change your future. Now, it’s up to you to decide whether you prefer to worry, or work out the best solutions to your problems and feel good in the process. You choose.