In the sea of negativity where hatred, envy, greed and anger try to take over, it’s hard to focus on the good side of things and appreciate everything that’s in front of us.
Of course, you can’t control what will happen in your life, no matter how much you want to keep it in a happy state. However, negativity will always find its way in and try to ruin your outlook on life.
But that’s life. That’s how it is, and without circumstances that try to put you down, you wouldn’t be able to rise and choose a different path. Although you don’t have a say on everything that’ll happen, at least you can choose how to respond. Eventually, you’ll be happier and appreciate life more than ever.
So, how do you do that? Here’s how.
Life Lesson No. 1: Appreciate the Small Things
Ever heard of the saying, “every little thing counts?” It’s normal to long for big, important things that can make an impact on your life. However, focusing too much on the bigger picture makes you neglect the little things that can make you happy.
What is the best way to do this? Make a list of those little things that can make you happy. Then try to incorporate them in your everyday activities. You will notice a big difference in no time.
Life Lesson No. 2: Learn When to Say No
Admit it. Once upon a time, you used to be the “yes” person. Yes to your boss, yes to your partner, yes to your neighbors, and even yes to your friends.
Sure, you may have gained their trust, but taking too much responsibility can be bad for you. Hence, don’t be surprised when you’re too tired or stressed all the time. Blame the lack of time for yourself.
Everyone has his or her limits, including you. Even God rested up on the seventh day. Therefore, learn to say no sometimes. if there is a need to delegate a task, then so be it. If you can’t make it on your friend’s birthday party because your child has a baseball game, then don’t force the issue. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break once in a while.
Life Lesson No. 3: Your Greatest Enemy is Yourself
It’s a part of human nature to constantly compare yourself to other people. Who has better clothes, who has a better job, who is richer and on it goes.
You may be better in one or more categories, but at the end of the day, comparing yourself to others is the same as burying your self-esteem in the ground.
How can you get rid of this habit? Well, stop comparing yourself to other people and rather, compare yourself to your own self. This way, you will be able to see how much you’ve changed and grown – hopefully for the better – and what you’ve achieved so far. This can make you feel good about yourself. Soon, you’ll stop worrying about what other people think of you.
You can’t win if you keep on comparing.
Life Lesson No. 4: Always Challenge Yourself
Most people are afraid of change, or at least trying out something new. That’s normal. After all, going out of your comfort zone can be too much for your system to handle, especially when you are so used to what you’re doing now.
If you really want to enjoy what life has to offer, then learn how to step out of your comfort zone once in a while. Challenge yourself to do something different that will really make you feel alive.
Remind yourself that you’re still a human being who’s capable of overcoming physical challenges, achieving a life-long dream or finishing a short-term goal.
Don’t be afraid. Formulate your game plan and make it happen. And yes, you can do it, no matter how difficult it may seem.
Life Lesson No. 5: Solve Your Problems
Problems are inevitable. No matter how much you try to avoid them, they will always find a way to ruin your perfect life. Instead of crying, feeling sorry for yourself and eating a whole tub of ice cream alone, why not try to think of ways to solve your issues?
Talking to someone about your problems is okay. It gives you a different take on things and helps you find alternative solutions to your problems. But when life becomes so hard on you, the best you can do is to be a problem solver. List the things that you need to do, and then write the appropriate solutions for it. Then solve each issue one at a time until you cross everything off the checklist.
Life Lesson No. 6: Make Up for Lost Time
Assuming you get eight hours of sleep every night, how do you spend the remaining 16 hours of your day, each and every day?
No matter how much you try to be productive, there will always be those lost hours from a long commute or traffic, mundane morning rituals or wasted time just watching TV or surfing the net.
If you want to make the most out of your day, try to make time for those lost hours. For instance, read a book or listen to a feel-good music on your way home. Wake up extra early to exercise or make yourself a healthy breakfast. You can also give yourself a bubble bath if you want to start your day right.
The point is try to do something during those free times. By spending some time doing something you really love, you’ll start loving your life from the moment you opened your eyes and wake up.
Life Lesson No. 7: Keep Calm and Don’t Complicate
Life is complicated, period. If everything is easy for you, how will you ever grow and learn? However, don’t make life even more complicated than it needs to be. The truth is, despite living in a complex world, you can still create new habits that can simplify your life.
Therefore, learn to split your focus and attention on different, yet equally important things. Instead of focusing on one complicated issue, try solving at least two to three important items in one day.
At the same time, try your best not to create any issues in your relationship. You’re not a mind reader and your partner is not Professor X, too. Ask questions to minimize any conflicts and possible misunderstandings.
Oh, and if everything is turning out stressful for you, stop, relax, and take a deep breath. Everything’s going to be fine.
Life Lesson No. 8: Make Each Day Count
Your everyday life may seem like a routine. You wake up in the morning and go to school or work. You do whatever it is that you need to do every day.
Then, you go home, eat dinner, watch a little TV, and go to sleep. Because of this routine, you may not notice, but your life is passing like a blur.
Well, that’s not how to go with it. From now on, try to spice up your life by doing something differently. Wear a color you would never wear. Wear diamond earrings on an ordinary day. Try a different workout routine.
Pass by a different road on your way to work, and for a change, wear a permanent smile on your face for a day. Don’t wait for important occasions to arrive for you to do something different.
At the same time, stop dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. Focus most of your energy by enjoying the present and let go of all the regrets. In other words, make every day special, as if it’s your last.
Life Lesson No. 9: Love Yourself
You must’ve heard this countless times as well, but if you really want to learn how to love life, you have to learn how to love yourself first.
It may be easy to blame yourself and look at yourself in a bad way but that’s not how it is. Yes, compare yourself to yourself, but that doesn’t mean you should be harsh.
Instead of focusing on your faults and imperfections, use them to make you a better person. Remind yourself of your best qualities and achievements and use that to your advantage. You are a beautiful, unique person. Don’t ever forget about that.
Life Lesson No. 10: Choose Happiness
Most people think that happiness just comes and goes. Wrong. The truth is only 10 percent of your happiness depends on life circumstances. And another fact you need to embrace from now on is that happiness is something you can choose.
How can you do that? Make a conscious effort to start to think more positively. Stop dwelling on too much negativity, since it won’t lead you anywhere.
Create a happiness diary, and jot down every day, everything that you are grateful and happy for – if your time is limited, keep it to 10 things. You can’t change what will happen to you, but you can definitely change how you react to it.
You only live once, so they say. Why dwell on the negative things when you can just focus on the brighter side? Relax, take a deep breath and enjoy every waking moment. Every day is a good opportunity to make new memories. Love your life more and life will have its way of getting back at you – in the best way possible.