Everyone has a dream. Whether it’s as simple as being able to eat three times a day, or owning a house and lot, or becoming popular all over the world, everyone wants to achieve something at some point.
The problem is most people don’t even know how to get there.
Yes, you have a dream, dreams even. However, are you taking the necessary steps to realize those dreams? After all, nobody wants to be wrinkly, old and still chasing for his or her dreams, right? As much as possible, you want everything going well by the time you hit 30 and slowly working up towards the ladder of success.
Let’s assume you know what you want and already laid down your top three most important goals. That’s the first step in making your dreams come true. However, this is where the hardest part comes in – making it happen. To help you better, here are seven surprisingly simple tips you can do to achieve your dreams.
1. Be Flexible In Choosing The Road Towards Your Goals
They always say there are two roads you can choose. If you want to go from point A to point B, you have to go either left or right. Okay fine, there’s a point in that statement, but seriously, have you seen a road that only goes left or right?
When you want to go from point A to point B, you will see many confusing paths along the way and it’s up to you to choose on what road you will take.
Same goes with chasing your dreams.
When you want to achieve something, you will have to take different roads, often challenging, many leading you to nowhere, but the result is success. Choosing one path alone is like telling yourself that this is the only right way and steering away from this path means dead end. Apparently, that’s not how it works.
If you really want to make your dreams come true, then you will have to take a risk and try different routes until you see achieve your goal. Just keep this in mind: whatever route you take, you will surely learn something from it. It’s still a win-win situation.
2. Know Your Life’s Purpose
Here’s a common mistake many people commit. In identifying your goals, make sure that your values and life purpose goes well with it.
Take the case of those who dream of having tons of money. No one is judging them, since who wouldn’t want cold cash when you need it?
Many people think that having money allows them to do whatever they want. Apparently, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. It turns out that having too much money does not automatically equate to success.
Believe it or not, many rich people wished that they laughed more, paid attention to their children when they are needed them, or took a vacation instead of wasting their hours inside the office. The thing is money and fame are not exactly the best measures of success and don’t necessarily bring true happiness.
Fine, it does, but true happiness does not depend on how many houses you have, the kind of car you drive, or how many times you dine out in a month. This is why it important that you know your values and that these values should be coherent with your purpose in life.
After all, what’s the point of having lots of money and a successful career at the expense of your marriage or the relationship you have with your family?
3. It’s All About You, Not What Others Tell You To Do
What did you want to be when you were younger? Oftentimes, your answer was, a “lawyer like my dad” or “a doctor like my mom,” or whatever your parents did.
In other words, your dreams depended on what your parents told or dictated you to do, whether directly or indirectly.
As you grew older, you probably started to realize your own dreams. You realized that aside from your parents jobs, there are other opportunities, some better and bigger. Later on, other role models, such as teachers and guidance counselors offered you advice on the best career option for you and even provide some tips on how you can achieve it.
No offense meant because surely, adults mean no harm. They simply want what is best for you. However, the only person who knows what’s best for you is yourself – and no one else.
It doesn’t matter if this ambition of yours is not as grand as having your own hotel or living in a posh subdivision in Beverly Hills, or even becoming the CEO of Apple. Even simple dreams, such as having your own family, living on the countryside and building a farm with all your essential needs are good. The important thing is that you know what you want to do with your life that can make you happy.
Of course, it is normal to go through soul searching first and a lot of trial and error until you realize what works for you. When you finally do, well, read on.
4. Stop Worrying And Start Working
One thing is for sure: the future is uncertain. Even if you were good this year and everything is going well for you, thanks to your hard work of course, there is no reassurance that things will get better the following year.
So, if you are one of those dudes who always worry about “how to get there,” well, that’s okay. Your reaction is normal.
However, the problem lies when you worry too much instead of doing something definitive to work on your dreams. Again, it is normal to think about the future and be scared about it. Instead of devoting your time and energy worrying, why not channel to make your dreams come true?
For instance, you really love designing clothes and sewing them by hand. Before worrying about not making it big, the number of your competitors, or the possibility that no one will patronize your clothes, why not start making them now, and then utilize the power of the World Wide Web to promote your clothes?
There is no such thing as overnight success when it comes to achieving your dreams. Take those baby steps and who knows, your ticket to fame is right there waiting at the end of the tunnel.
5. Inner Desire Vs. Mind Talk
Let’s say a robber is about to attack you and get your bag with your iPad, cellphone, wallet and other paraphernalia you need inside it. What is your first reaction?
In this case, you will rely on your instincts. Apparently, it can be confusing, too. Your mind tells you to fight back, while your inner desire is telling you to leave and look for help.
Here’s the thing: relying on intuition or logic depends the person. Some rely on their gut feelings, which is often true and sensible from start to finish. On the other hand, there are those who don’t really believe in intuition and prefer to use their minds. It’s up to you to decide on which among the two works best.
Oh, and it will be confusing along the way. In case that happens, feel happy about it. Most of the time, the only way you can get to where you’re going is through uncertainty. Just relax. Take a deep breath, weigh on the consequences, try out things, and have fun. You’ll learn something along the way and use that as a stepping-stone to achieve your dreams.
6. Face Your Fears
Aside from uncertainties, fear will always have its way of knocking at your door and make its presence felt. That’s normal.
If you don’t feel scared along the way, then this means you are afraid of taking chances and the road towards success may take some time – and a really long one.
Therefore, it takes to have an efficient support system that understands your goals and will back you up no matter what. Motivate yourself to try harder, even if it means reading or watching inspirational stories or making your own diary to document everything you learned in the process.
The point is face your fears. Let go of your inhibitions and don’t let it take over you.
7. Validate It
So, you complied with the first six steps and are slowly seeing that light at the end of the tunnel. That’s great.
It only means you’re opening up and willing to do whatever it takes to achieve what you want in life. However, you need to validate those steps to make sure that you are on the right track.
How Do You Do that?
Make your own validation procedure. Aside from keeping track of your progress and crossing out the tasks on your “must do to achieve this” list, having sensory-based information using your five senses will help a lot.
This means list the things you will see, hear, smell, taste and feel when you achieve your dreams. In other words, have some signposts along the way, be it a new car or getting promoted in your job. Yes, these are smaller goals that when combined, amounts to the bigger dream.
So, are you ready to make your dreams come true?