Life is constantly throwing us curveballs. How you handle a situation can tell a lot about your personality and character. Are you one to hide from your fears? Do you dwell on the impossibilities thrown your way?
No one can ever make it through life without any trials and tribulations. Think for a moment how you will handle your next moment of trouble.
For anyone who feels they have not had a moment of doubt or pain, then here is a bit of insight into some major setbacks people commonly experience.
Illness is a major misfortune. Whether you or a loved one is ill, it is extremely trying to deal with for anyone. Remaining strong enough to battle the illness, and maintaining patience is difficult, at best.
Death is another major blow that people commonly experience. Losing a job or extreme financial troubles, such as foreclosure and eviction are also key knockbacks. Of course there are always difficult moments in life. But, these extreme troubles are major setbacks.
You can overcome shocks with the right attitude. Here is our advice about how to overcome your next major disappointments.
1. Accept That This Blow Is Real And Not Going Anywhere
One of the first phases of dealing with a setback is denial. No one wants to come to terms with the fact that they are experiencing something that will be utterly difficult. However, the first step towards overcoming your shock is accepting the fact that it has begun.
It may help to remember that everyone has these moments in their lives. Understanding the fact that this setback is unavoidable and inevitable for everyone can help you rest a little easier. At one point in time, everyone will have a jolt of his or her own. Now is just the time for yours.
Change is a part of our world. Tadpoles turn into frogs, caterpillars turn into butterflies, and we can change into greater things ourselves. Not only is change inevitable, but it is necessary. Remaining stagnant does not allow for a fulfilling life. Accept the fact that this change is inevitable. In fact, you should accept that change is a good thing.
2. Do Not Blame Anyone Or Anything
Once you accept that fact that you are facing a challenging time, it is important to find peace with it. After denial, we all jump to blaming. Hatred and anger overwhelms us, and we want to point fingers.
It is easy to blame others. Perhaps you feel as though you are sick because you have worked too much, or your family has not done enough for you. Perhaps you blame yourself for various reasons.
Understand that no one is to blame for this setback. Everyone experiences them, and it is possible to overcome them as long as you are not filled with anger. Pointing the finger and placing blame on others only deters your energy from focusing on what will help you. Inner peace and positivity help overcome a trauma, not anger and hatred.
Clear your mind and do not let yourself blame anyone, including yourself. Thinking positively and moving forward is healthy and helpful towards you future past this bump in the road.
3. Give Your Spiritual Side A Try
Spirituality helps to relieve stress and providing support when you need it the most. Sometimes, we feel as though we are not strong enough to get through these trials and tribulations.
And, that is when spirituality can be the crutch to support you. You can rely on your faith to get you through when you do not feel physically, mentally and emotionally adequate.
Regardless of your choice in faith, spirituality provides you with many different positive things. First and foremost, faith gives you a light at the end of the tunnel. The concept of knowing and acknowledging that someone or something has a plan for you will help keep you grounded with your head up.
In addition, faith provides us with the reminder that we are one of millions on this earth and for a short time. We all have a purpose, and it is your intended purpose to overcome this setback.
If you are having trouble finding any type of faith, then meditation can offer you similar benefits. Yoga and other various forms of meditation can help you find inner peace and oneness with the world. We guarantee that this tranquility will open up doors for you to welcome in faith of any kind.
4. Do Not Expect It To Be Quick
Understanding that this trauma is inevitable, and possibly good, is nice and all. But, there will be times when you want it to simply end. Positive vibes and feelings can only last so long.
You will eventually hit a bump in the road when you throw your hands up and want to call it quits. However, it is imperative that you understand that you need more time.
Wounds and broken bones require time to heal. And, our setbacks are no different. We need the proper amount of time to overcome whatever is holding us back. When you become impatient and yearning for an end, the blow becomes harder to overcome. Your impatience will make the ordeal even more unbearable than it already is. And, that can make the time feel like an eternity.
Too often we rush and push to have things happen faster in our lives. For example, we have fast food, technology, and so much more. There are so many things readily available to us to make things quicker. Sometimes we have to step back and slow things down a bit.
If you are having trouble taking it slow and being patient with your comeback, then try these few tips. First, you can meditate. As we have mentioned before, meditation helps you center yourself and calm down. Meditation is also a wonderful idea because it naturally helps you feel grounded and humble. Once you understand that there are so many magnificent things around you, you will begin to focus on them.
Our advice is to focus on the positive and happy things going on around you. Think about your family and the delightful memories you have. Remind yourself that this disturbance will eventually end. And, when it does you will be exactly where you want to be in your life.
5. Broaden Your Horizons
Disappointments are the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself. Whereas the old you may have cowered in fright at the thought of change, the new you welcomes it openly. The new you laugh in the face of adversity and greets struggle as it walks through your door.
Recognize that blows are not causing you to be a martyr. Rather, they are simply a bump in the road and they will be overcome with the right attitude. Be open to a new mindset. And, do not be afraid to change or reinvent the wheel so to speak.
Try new things. We guarantee that opening new doors will not only help alleviate physical symptoms. But, these new experiences can also ease mental and emotional stresses in addition to being great ways to eliminate some waiting time.
6. Be Sure To Reflect
It is important, for a few different reasons, to reflect inwardly wherever possible. First and foremost, it is helpful to reflect as it will help you understand that this is not the end of the world.
Taking a step back and reassessing the situation will help you have a better handle on where you stand, and how insignificant this issue is in the grand scheme of things.
Reflecting inwardly also proves to be pertinent if the distress is something that may have been prevented. We naturally live and learn, so ensure to make this setback a learning experience wherever possible.
Perhaps there are some things that you could have done differently. Such as manage your time more wisely, take matters into your own hands, or always double check your work. Regardless of the knockback, we guarantee that there is at least one lesson to be learned in there somewhere.
7. Talk it Out
Finding a confidant or person with whom you can express all of your emotions is very important for your mental and emotional health. Arguably, one person’s setbacks may not be relatable to another.
But, there are definitely people within your life who would love to help you through your setback. They may not understand the direness of the situation from your perspective, but they can help you in a multitude of different ways.
Talking alleviates any stresses you may have had, and it is a great idea to bounce ideas off of a third, neutral party. Not only can this strengthen your relationship. But, it can provide you the opportunity to reciprocate later down the road when your friend needs help. Since, as we have said, everyone experiences obstacles.
8. Educate Others
What good would your jolt be if you did not help others avoid the same situation? Use your setback as a way to help others. You can write about your experiences in a book, which can be sold or simply given out for free at certain functions.
You could volunteer at your local community center, offer to give a speech at an appropriate venue, or even teach a class on the topic. Your personal experience is so valuable to others, as it is a genuine real-world example that many others may encounter in some way, shape or form.
Setbacks are not the most enjoyable part of life. But, they are inevitable for everyone. The definition and examples of setbacks is subjective. What a disappointment is to you may simply be a minor issue to me .But, what really matters is how you overcome them. Keep your chin up, and remember that this too shall soon pass.